Reasons are not required to be scared!
Is All We Fear Uncertainty?
Yesterday, as I was about to bed, I was pinged by a person. He epistled me, just a short paragraph, composed of a single sentence.
‘I don’t know why, but I am sulk, scared and feeling beside myself.’
On being forced upon a conversation, he admitted he feared nothing but uncertainty.
But was he the only one who feared it?
It took me a while, to decide what to inscribe in the reply. Because, this was the very knot that worried even me, more than often. And I am sure, each one us, at some point of time, would have got scared and felt lonely and out of sight. So, how can I help someone with a problem, I myself am yet to get to the bottom of?
I was feeling helpless.
Scribbling Down the Uncertain
Then, I began jotting all the uncertain things in my life, to be able to make up an answer.
‘Whether I will wake up tomorrow, and will be able to see another morning is an uncertainty, for sure.
If the amount of sugar, in the cup of tea, that my brother just handed me over, would be apt or not, is another doubt.
Or perchance, he might have forgotten to add the sugar, altogether.
If the WiFi would work without frequent disruptions for the next few hours, is chancy and incalculable.
Whether the person I love shall always be my side, is iffy and in the lap of Gods.
If I will clear the next exam, that I will take, is inconstant.
The list seemed to be unending.
All I could conclude was that even the certainty is in real life an uncertainty.
So, What’s the Band-Aid for This Misgiving
We have two options, as always, at this fork in our life.
Either to continue fearing the uncertainty or another, the extraordinary one, to accept it.
Accepting the Uncertainty
What you should do with this self-willed thing called Uncertainty is this,
And live with the iffiness that it brings.
Believe me, this is the only way out.
And to anyone who has ever lived the literal meaning of the word ‘life’, the fact that unplanned day outs are wonderful and far far better than the planned evenings, need not be detailed. Isn’t it amazing to know, that your every day to come, invariably, won’t be monotone or preplanned? Every day will be a new and a different one. Not an hour to come would go as you imagined it to.
The plans, the days that pick up the threads and knit up on their own, that are sudden, on-the-spot and uncertain, would be the most awe-inspiring.
And as has been opportunely quoted,
Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has a purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all the events are blessings given to us to learn from.
~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
If you don’t think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. There will always be dark days.
We could never learn to be brave and patient, if there were only joy in the world.
I have seen many storms in my life. Most storms have caught me by surprise, so I had to learn very quickly to look further and understand that I am not capable of controlling the weather, to exercise the art of patience and to respect the fury of nature.
~ Paulo Coello